Challenges of Making Love Work in Present Times

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  • Dr. Albert Oduwole Association of Christian Family Life Coaches

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.47672/ajp.2659

Abstract

Purpose: This study examines the reasons for the difficulties of romantic relationships in the contemporary setting, determining the most important contemporary difficulties and their solutions. Its purpose is to integrate scholarly findings with practical applications for both scholars and relationship practitioners.

Materials and Methods: We employed a mixed-methods approach, integrating a literature review with primary survey data and case study findings. We synthesized current theories and research pertaining to relationship dynamics and conducted a survey of adult partners (N = 220) and in-depth interviews with 12 couples.

Findings: Outcomes identify five pervasive factors that are stressing modern relationships: social media and digital distractions, changes in social values (or "woke" culture) and ideological division, migration and distance pressures, hectic lifestyles and work stress, and unfinished business from upbringing. For example, nearly half of coupled individuals reported frequent smartphone distractions during interactions (pewresearch.org), and 71% of employees in our sample attributed job stress to relationship dissolution (mccrarencompliance.com). Partners also reported disagreements over differing social/political beliefs, resonating with research that almost 46% of singles refuse to date someone with different beliefs (matchmakingcompany.com)

Unique Contribution to Theory: The research stresses that building healthy romantic relationships in the contemporary era needs the coordination of various elements between technological, societal, and individual levels. It presents a comprehensive model with evidence-based solutions from enhancing communication abilities to establishing technology boundaries to assist couples in navigating modern obstacles to satisfying relationships. The findings can be used by relationship therapists and coaches to design interventions based on the specific needs of their clients. In brief, the study emphasizes that despite the challenges presented to modern relationships, strategic intervention and awareness can significantly enhance relationship longevity as well as satisfaction.

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Published

2025-03-24

How to Cite

Oduwole, D. A. (2025). Challenges of Making Love Work in Present Times. American Journal of Psychology, 7(1), 40–60. https://doi.org/10.47672/ajp.2659

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